These days I am seem to be constantly reminded of the need to be grateful, especially in difficult and challenging times. We all have issues to deal with and situations which threaten to bring us to our knees. It could be a relationship, your job, finances or your health. Whatever you’re dealing with, I humbly suggest that you wake up each morning and try to find a reason to give thanks.
The universe responds to the energy and thought vibrations we send out. If fear is what emanates from you, or frustration or in some cases anger then this is what you will most likely continue to receive. The result? That stressful state where you feel you're constantly climbing uphill and not getting out of life what you what.
I don’t know what you are dealing with but what I believe is that there is always a reason for everything and like my father says all the time, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. I try to remember this when I’m feeling discouraged and disappointed, I tell myself that there is a reason I am going through whatever is happening and I thank God for the experience.
I am also trying to find the joy in simple things, like drinking a nice cup of coffee, sharing a meal with my family, spending time with my parents and friends in Trinidad, playing with my dog Yogi, watching TV with my husband or curling up in bed when its cold outside with a good book.
I still have to wake up the next morning and face the challenges but I truly believe that an energy of gratefulness will attract good things in my life. There is a famous quote by Meister Eckhart which comes to mind, “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough."
Dear friends I wish you courage in the face of hardships and grace to endure life’s setbacks. Find something to give thanks for and remember that the universe always has your back.
I got to thinking today about the ways in which we get the messages we need. As if on cue, they seemingly fall into our laps sometimes from the most unexpected places. I also have been reminded of the importance of keeping an open mind so that our own judgements don’t get in the way of us receiving the insights we are supposed to when these messages appear.
Allow me to give you an example from my own life which has caused me to “come down a notch or two”. I must confess that I have become somewhat lofty over the years as I continue along my spiritual journey, very often believing that it is only through the teachings of the great masters of the universe that I can reach an exalted state of enlightenment. I’ve now changed that point of view and it is in part because a beautiful young friend that has come into my life.
Rosemary recently moved into our neighborhood with her husband and young child. She doesn’t speak English well because she and her husband are Romanian. They are both in their twenties and together with their gorgeous two year old, they have brought so much joy to my own family. Since we became friends, I have spent many afternoons in the company of Rose, having coffee, playing with her son and chatting about everything imaginable.
Rose has truly surprised me with her debt of character and her confidence in the unseen power which makes everything possible. She has shared books with me she has read, told me about her experiences where she manifested everything from love, to a baby to a car. She has encouraged me to believe in myself and to go after my dreams and she has helped me understand my own reactions to people and situations. More than anything, it is Rose’s enthusiasm and relentless belief in “anything is possible” which has lighted a fire under to me to after my dreams.
A lot of what Rose and I talk about I have heard before but as you know, very often in life we need to be reminded of what is important. While sitting by myself having coffee a few days ago, I thought in detail about what made Rose so special since she is truly wise beyond her years. Then I had one of those “a-ha” moments. You see at one point in my life, when I was her age, I was just like her! I was in my twenties and I believed that anything was possible. I was flying high on my own “power of positive thinking”, nothing and no one could convince me that I could not achieve anything my heart desired.
So what happened I asked myself? Well I believe that life got in the way, as it does for so many of us. We get older, we get discouraged and our dreams die. We don’t have the passion for life that we had when we were younger. Not without reason of course since life can be challenging. I know there are many of you reading this post who are dealing with a myriad of issues. This is what drains us but I have a suggestion. How about trying to reconnect with that part of you that was undaunted and fiercely loyal to our dreams?
I have decided that I want to be and feel like Rose does and to once again have that unwavering confidence that moves mountains. There was a time when I was manifesting almost anything I set my heart on and if I did it then I can do it now. So how do we reconnect with that part of ourselves?
I want to raise my own vibration to another level so I am reminding myself of what I know I can achieve. I’ve started looking at old photographs of journalism awards I received more than two decades ago. I’ve been listening to music from the 80’s, thinking about motivational books that I read then. Some of them like The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale, Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins and How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie truly made a difference.
I’ve also been spending a lot of time just thinking, meditating, praying and reminding myself that situations change but we inherently remain the same internally. If that’s the case then the twenty something year old Ann Marie is still there. Do you think it’s still inside of you? Of course it is! After all, as Dr. Wayne Dyer used to say, “we are not a physical body having a spiritual experience but a spiritual being have a physical experience.”
I would like to thank my friend Rose for reminding me of my greatness as a human being and as an energetic source that comes from and is a part of God. I hope that I can help you as well rediscover the passion, desire and clarity that will help you achieve your goals. Remember, “when the teacher is ready the student will appear” so be open to the messages from the universe and when they come embrace them, knowing that if you believe it, you can achieve it.
A long time ago, one of my mentors said to me, "Ann Marie, don't ever go where you are not wanted". Now I understand after many years what he meant(RIP Mr. Roy Boyke). This insight has saved me a lot of pain an embarrassment both personally and professionally.
I'm sure you remember occasions where you may have been left out of being invited to a party. Maybe a group of colleagues decided to go out for an after work drink and you were not invited. Don't for a minute wish that you were, just tell yourself that it was not meant to be. By saying, "geez I feel bad because they don't want me around" sends a message to the universe that you are not good enough. Instead know that your place in this world has already been determined and you don't need to chase after anyone or anything.
I know only too well how it feels to be anxious abut a business deal after making a presentation. It's tempting to keep calling the organization you presented for even though you're getting signs that that they are not interested. Or the job interview that didn't seem to go anywhere. Then there is the ex-boyfriend or girl friend who dumped you but you keep calling. Oh I could go on and on but I think you get the idea by now.
It feels much better to just forget it and move on to other things. Trust me, it does a lot for your self esteem. Don't put yourself in a position to be rejected, it's just not worth it. So the next time someone closes a door in your face, say thank you and use it as motivation to do great things with your life.
There comes a time in your life when you may need to distance yourself mentally and emotionally from people around you so that you can make your own dreams come true. This isn’t easy to do, especially if you love the person or the individuals are family members and friends. It’s human nature to want to help others but I’m learning the hard way that sometimes I just need to shut off.
You see, focusing on other people can get in the way of you manifesting what you want in life. Do you have someone in your life who you have tried repeatedly to help but you seem to be getting nowhere? I’ve discovered that this constant emphasis on another person drains my energy. I remember my father saying to me many years ago that, ”you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink”.
I was reminded of this recently when I became so very frustrated because someone I have been trying to help just would not take my well-meaning advice. Then I sat back and took a good hard look at my life. I realized that I was not achieving my own goals, I felt unfulfilled and resentful. The energy that I was directing to someone else could have been channeled into my own life’s purpose.
We have all been given "free will" and the ability to make choices, so when you have given enough advice and you get to the point where you feel drained, give up! Your creative energy cannot flow as it should if you are fixated on another person. Remember that you have one life to live, only you can make it epic! So don’t waste your time on people who don't value what you have to offer.
I am firmly convinced that affirmations work and that they create miracles in our lives. This isn’t just some “airy fairy” or “woo-hoo” theory, it’s a very scientific approach that connects us to all that we desire. Thoughts and words are energy, like everything else in the universe, when you think and speak with conviction, you are actually connecting to the energy that is in all things.
Affirmations also rewire our brains to think more in terms of possibility than defeat. When we affirm something, anything, whether to our benefit or not, we are setting in motion a mechanism to make it a reality. That’s why it is so very important to stay away from thoughts like, “I don’t feel well,” “this pain is killing me”, “this world sucks,” “ I am so frustrated”, “I am unlucky” and “money is hard to come by”.
Instead go the other route and every time you catch yourself thinking or saying something debilitating, stop! Empower yourself with simple positive affirmations. For instance, “I am creative,” “I have found my dream job”, “I am healthy”, “I look amazing” and my personal favorite, “I am divinely guided and connected to God”.
I have personally experienced the benefits of affirmations, especially when it comes to the health of persons I know and love. Even with my own health, I have used affirmations numerous times to heal myself. One of the most successful documented cases of affirmations that continue to be used for healing comes from the French pharmacist and psychologist Emile Coue.
Almost a century ago, Coue believed that most mental and physical illness was a result of the person’s thinking. He coined the phrase, “everyday in every way I’m getting better and better”. He suggested that this phrase be repeated like a mantra. Thousands of people have since reported that they were healed of their illnesses using this affirmation.
If It sounds far fetched to you, I urge you to keep an open mind, after all, what do you have to lose? My own mother at the end of each day, says to me, “Ann Marie all is well”. This is all I need to fuel my determination to do as Dr. Wayne Dyer used to say, “call the things which do not exist as if they already did”.
So if you are struggling with something right now, why not try positive affirmations ? Say them with conviction and try to feel like you would if they were a reality. I wish you all the best and as my mother reminds me every night- “all is well”.
One of the most difficult lessons I have had to learn is to give without expecting. It’s natural as human beings to want recognition and appreciation for what we do, however chances are this will be few and far between. If we are to move forward and continue to make a difference in the lives of others, it is something that we must get past.
Being a wife and mother can be challenging and the tasks of being a homemaker seem never ending. As a professional, I have given so much of my time and intellectual property to friends and acquaintances. I admit there are days when I feel unappreciated and I ask myself, "really? there is no thanks for what I have done?" I get this hollow feeling in the pit of my stomach and I feel so very hurt. Can you relate to to this?
But then I talk to myself, like I'm recommending you do. Trust that the universe will pay you back for all that you do. Tell yourself that you don't need the acknowledgements of other human beings to be happy. Happiness after all has to come from within and not from external factors.
Now take heed and please don't be a martyr. In other words don't sacrifice your well being for the sake of others. Continue to give but be wise and practical...self preservation first!
There is another important insight here which you may find useful. Don’t be like those who hurt your feelings, instead be the change and the light in the world. Remember to say thank you and to show appreciation to those who take the time to help you.
So continue to serve others, to do all you can to make the world a better place. When appreciation does come your way, be grateful to those who recognized your efforts. Love and light to you!